‘Gilmore Girls’ Revisited Vol. 6: Friendship
GilmoreNews.com’s discussion of the series’ major themes and components continues with a look at what makes Lorelai and Rory the good friends that they are, using Lorelai’s “birthday speech” to Rory as a jumping-off point.
This bond between mother and daughter is an example of just how complex a show Gilmore Girls is. While casual viewers can simply enjoy the humor between the cast, those who wish to delve deeper are likely to find something more. One of those things is the amount of thought Amy & Dan put into the character relationships.
Those who’ve seen the entire series quickly realize that there’s a quiet desperation in Lorelai’s need to keep Rory her best friend, and much of that is down to Lorelai’s relationship with her own parents. We need only look at any interaction between her and Richard or Emily to see what fuels that desperation to keep the channels of communication open at all costs.
Edward Herrmann was particularly eloquent on the subject of that relationship between father and daughter during our discussion for the book, and admitted that he adjusted his own performance slightly to strike a balance between Richard’s harsh handling of Lorelai, and his depiction of the hurt feelings that inspired it.
“[Lorelai’s] hurt him, and he absolutely adores her, which is very easy to do with Graham because she’s so adorable. She has this quality of intelligence and humor and standoffishness. She’s very warm, but she’s not going to be taken advantage of as a person, Lauren isn’t. That was a quality that I loved about her.
“And it was easy to play on the one hand, I mean an edgy, quarrelsome father, but it was tough on the other because you just want to hug her, just wanted to say, ‘Calm down now, let’s have fun instead of always just fighting.’ It may be that it was a quality that came naturally to her. But she is such a good actress that it may be a quality that she emphasized strictly for the part. I still don’t know.”