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Friday Night Dinner 3

The third in a weekly look at the progress of The Gilmore Girls Companion as we round the bend on this 2+ year adventure.

It’s been a quiet week on Lake Wobegon… Er, scratch that. It’s been a quiet week in The Hollow, or the little corner of Season 6 I’ve been dwelling in as I finish up the chapter on that contentious part of the series.

Like many fans, I didn’t really have exceptionally fond memories of the last two years of the show (though that carries the caveat that a bad episode of Gilmore is almost always better than a good episode of anything else.)

Still, I have to say how impressed I’ve been at how well Season 6 stands up to repeat viewing four years after it originally aired. I think what most of us found irritating was the way the series seemed to shift from a comedy with dramatic elements to a drama with comedic elements — it takes a little getting used to.

What struck me as particularly interesting on revisiting S6 was the whole Luke/April/Lorelai triangle. Poor April’s taken a beating over the years, mostly, I think, because she’s seen as the reason Luke and Lor’ broke up. Yet it was during those episodes that Luke gained an extra dimension that we never really had the opportunity to see before – this guy desperate to do the right thing by his kid, even if he’s not sure how to go about doing it.

It also brought Lorelai’s selfishness into some sort of perspective. She tries her best to deal with the situation, but what Luke is willing to offer her at that moment simply isn’t enough to fulfill her needs. She’s a “woman of a certain age” as Mrs. Kim would say; she’s ready to settle down after all these years of uncertainty, and the guy she’s been waiting for all this time isn’t ready.

But enough of my pontificating — it’s back to the task at hand. Two more episodes to go before I can wrap up the chapter on Season 6. We’re “coming around the mountain” (sorry, Rory)!

  1. Lori
    August 13, 2010 at 10:09 pm

    Saeson 6 is currently winding down on ABCFamily. While it wasn’t the storylines everyone wanted, I thought it definitely added a new dimension to Luke’s character. Everyone hate April, but I thought she definitely shook things up for our favorite couple. In the 6th and 7th seasons both Luke and Lorelai were forced to face themselves and grow up so to speak. Luke took on the challenge of being a parent to a daughter who was a burgeoning teenager and really gained depth as a person. Lorelai, on he other hand, had to face her own past (Christopher) and really discover what she truly wanted in life. Yes, those last two seasons were more drama infused with comedy, but I actually enjoyed them. I thought both seasons gave Scott and Lauren a chance to really show off their acting chops. AND it at least resolved the Lorelai/Christopher relationship once and for all. And you’re not the only one who can pontificate, Aaron! Lol!

    • August 14, 2010 at 7:11 am

      Couldn’t have said it better myself, Lori the Pontificator πŸ™‚

      Now, could somebody out there please give us another perspective on Season 6? (I think Season 7 is it’s own unique experience in this case.)

      While we’re at it, I would love to hear from some Chris/Lorelai fans as to why you prefer that pairing.

  2. zoran
    August 14, 2010 at 10:31 am

    You know, I have a system to pick out episodes to watch. I don’t watch them in order and start all over when I’m done. No, I just throw the dice, literally. It’s quite a good way when I can’t decide. So, after this explanation you will hopefully understand better why I watched these episodes.

    This is now a little comparison of scenes from earlier seasons and season 6, very opposite in this particular examples. OK, in season 1 when Rachel (Luke’s girlfriend) is in town and it’s her birthday coming up, Luke buys her a present and Lorelai berates him on it. He then, reculantly, gives her his credit card to buy a better present. She goes off and buys not just a gift for Rachel, but a complete new wardrobe for Luke as well. He didn’t ask her to and is his grumpy self but tries it on anyway.
    In season 6, when he prepares for the field trip with April, he’s fixing his old sea bag to take on the trip. It’s nearly falling apart and Lorelai, now his fiance, offers to buy him new luggage, he refuses. Lorelai now sulks around until the Infamous “Anna” bag arrives. What is she affraid of? Season 1 Lorelai wouldn’t have hesitated an instant to get him new luggage. She was walking on egg shels around him (her own words). That’s what most fans respond to, they want the spunky Lorelai back.

    Second, a funny little bit. When Luke is back from the field trip, he’s arguing with Ceasar about some “adjustments” he made during Luke’s absence. He’s quite aggitated now and when Lorelai walks into the diner he’s glad that finally someone sane walked in.
    In season 2 when Lorelai and Rory walk into the diner it’s completly empty exept for them and Luke and they start talking about playing bagel hockey on the counter. The conversation goes back and forth and Luke starts to get annoyed. To return to my point above; clarifying his oppinion of Lorelai, his last sentence in the scene is directed to her: “Call me, if anyone sane walks in.”

    It struck me as funny when I noticed this little evolution in both Luke and Lorelai, considering what they went through and were currently experiencing.

  3. zoran
    August 14, 2010 at 10:45 am


    I fully agree with Lori. Although, April added a lot of drama to the story which I don’t care for in TV shows. In most TV shows, when they go to “war”, the constant tension gets tiresome to watch quickly.

  4. August 14, 2010 at 11:50 am

    Some astute observations there, Zoran. When you spell out what happened in these scenes in particular, it’s really difficult to see Luke putting up with these kinds of things from anyone else.

  5. Lori
    August 14, 2010 at 10:42 pm

    To address your other inquiry, Aaron, while I’m a definite Luke and Lorelai shipper, I can not bring myself to hate Christopher. After all, he and Lorelai have known each other since they were children and formed a close bond of friendship that developed into a romantic bond. Their mutual abhorrence of their family situations only made that bond stronger. They were first and foremost friends. Yes, they were forced to deal with a very difficult situation…teenaged parenthood…and Lorelai was the one who took on the challenge while Christopher ran away, not ready to face such grown up responsibilities. That was the difference between them. Lorelai, as a new teen mom, was forced to grow up much sooner and had a fierce desire to make a different life for her new child. She had dreams and made them happen. People often lament about what a loser Christopher was. I don’t agree. He wasn’t a bad guy. He just needed to find himself and grow up. Having Gigi (and subsequently facing single parenthood himself) was the wake up call he needed to really see things from Lorelai’s perspective. He then made even more of an effort to connect with Rory, while his love for Lorelai never wavered. She also loved him deeply. I believe it was necessary for them to live together and really explore their relationship to see just what KIND of love they shared. Obviously, they found out it was meant to be that deep friendship kind of love. They both had grown into very different people by the 7th season and I think that even Christopher came off as a stronger person in the end. They learned that you can love someone deeply, but that person may not be the romantic life partner you are looking for. So while I prefer Luke and Lorelai with all their complications, I’m glad they got around to bringing closure to the other complex relationship, Lorelai and Christopher. After all…they ARE Rory’s parents!

  6. August 15, 2010 at 7:33 am

    Some interesting thoughts, Lori. I’m wondering now if it’s ever made clear whether Christopher DID actually run away from his responsibilities in the beginning. He does admit that he did, but how much of it was Lorelai’s doing?

    We know that Lorelai refused to get married to him when she got pregnant. We also know that she just disappeared from Richard and Emily’s house a while after she had Rory, presumably with no forwarding information (since Emily only sees where they were living behind the inn for the first time years later). Christopher may not have known where Lorelai and Rory were, either.

    One of the most obvious comparisons with the Lorelai/Christopher relationship is Rory and Logan. Both Christopher and Logan are in some respects overgrown children who have a difficult time living up to their responsibilities, pretty much for the same reason (overbearing parents who try to steer them into a certain kind of life). In fact, you have to wonder how much of Rory’s decision not to marry Logan has to do with her perspective on her father. There’s a reason Christopher and Logan bonded so quickly, and over the same types of irresponsibility (getting kicked out of school repeatedly).

  7. Lori
    August 15, 2010 at 10:13 pm

    I totally agree with you, Aaron! Logan and Christopher DID bond very quickly, and they have so much in common. Maybe Rory turned down Logan’s proposal because she saw the comparison between Logan and her father. On the other hand, like Christopher, Logan did some growing up of his own during the last season, finally taking responsibility for his life and actions. Maybe Rory just wasn’t ready to settle down and wanted to live her life on her own terms as a newly graduated young adult. Had the show continued, I think Rory may have eventually found her way back to Logan again. While Rory was smart and always seemed more grown up than Lorelai, she learned to find her own strengths, her own voice, and ultimately overcame that self consciousness that led her to be so cautious with her choices in life.

    As far as the early Lorelai and Christopher relationship goes, I think Christopher wanted to do the right thing but was probably freaked out! Not to mention, he had Straub to deal with! That man would make ANYONE want to run away! Poor Chris probably felt so emotionally beaten down by his own father that he didn’t have the confidence to stand up to him or be a father to Rory. We knew that he would call occasionally so he had to have known where they lived eventually. Although, given Emily’s character, it sounds very implausible that she wouldn’t have known where Lorelai and Rory were. That woman would have had private investigators find Lorelai and she would have fought to bring her minor home! Lorelai would have had to go to court to have herself declared an emancipated minor in order to live on her own at seventeen. But Amy wrote it the way she did for a reason, even if it does seem out of character for the elder Gilmores to not have found Lorelai. My guess is that she wanted to show just how devastated Emily was at Lorelai’s leaving home. A parent who could so devastated as to take to their bed for a MONTH HAS to love their child! That backstory was such an explosive dynamic that set up the tone for the whole series. Gilmore Girls wasn’t just about Lorelai and Rory, but Lorelai and Emily as well. Okay, enough rambling from me! Lol!

  8. August 18, 2010 at 11:54 am

    By all means ramble, Lori πŸ˜‰

    Some good points there. As for why Emily didn’t fight to get Lorelai back home, she may have realized even then that she risked having her daughter cut them out of her life completely if she went too far. There are a few times in the series itself where Emily tugs herself, or Richard, back from the brink of confrontation with Lorelai because she fears that they will never see Lorelai or Rory again.

  9. Lori
    August 19, 2010 at 2:21 am

    So true, Aaron! I’ve always loved the complexity of Lorelai and Emily’s relationship. For all of Emily’s faults, she did love Lorelai deeply. She just didn’t know how to connect with her or let go of her own rigid views of how a parent/child relationship should be. At least we got a glimmer of hope for a better relationship between them in the series finale. It definitely gave me plenty of material to write my own Lorelai/Emily fan fiction reconciliations! I can’t wait for your book to come out. I’m moving from California back into my parents’ home on Long Island, N.Y. in October to care for my parents. My mother was my Emily Gilmore, but I’ve learned to forgive her now that she has dementia and is deteriorating. So I’m going to use what I learned from Gilmore Girls to help me create a better relationship with my mom, while she can still remember who I am. So keep writing! I can’t wait to get my own copy of The Gilmore Girls Companion. You’ll have to sign a copy for me, especially since I gave you my story for the book. Have a great day!

  10. zoran
    August 19, 2010 at 12:16 pm

    Good idea, how much trouble would it be to sign every book and write a few words to the recipient? Probably a few more weeks, right?

  11. August 19, 2010 at 12:23 pm

    Ha ha, because I’m quite the celebrity, yes? πŸ˜‰ Seriously, that’s the fun part of writing books. Just remind me if that’s something you’d like when the book is actually out, and I will gladly do that.

    Lori, a very touching story about your mother. I hope Amy, Dan and the rest come across these types of stories — I think it would really touch them to know how deeply the show they worked so hard on has affected people.

  12. Lori
    August 19, 2010 at 10:07 pm

    What? I think it would be cool to get a signed copy of the book that I’ve followed and even helped contribute to in my small capacity. Between posting here and e-mailing back and forth, we’ve had some good little conversations, Aaron. So yeah, you’re like a celebrity in my book. Lol! Especially since you got to interview so many cool people associated with Gilmore Girls.

  13. August 20, 2010 at 7:06 am

    That’s very kind of you, Lori. And yes, you and so many others have indeed contributed to this book in so many ways. There’s only so much one person can think of, only a single perspective one person can have — if two heads are better than one, then hundreds of heads are a good thing to have πŸ™‚

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